5 Tips On How To Heal After Divorce
Life after divorce is certainly different, and if the event is still fresh it might feel overwhelming at first. But if you know how to heal after getting divorced, and take the right steps in the right order, the process doesn’t necessarily need to be drawn out or painful.
Having reached the conclusion to move on from your marriage, here are some tips to help you navigate this next life change well, amicably and with mutual respect.
1. Don’t Ignore Your Feelings
First and foremost, if you want to begin the healing process of a separation, it is important not to ignore how you feel. You’ll inevitably be experiencing a range of emotions, each of which require a different approach to deal with.
If you suppress certain feelings, they will slowly simmer and never truly subside. But if you allow them to surface and give them the attention they deserve, you will soon learn to accept them and move forward through the healing process quicker.
2. Take Advantage Of The Support That’s Available
Remember, healing after divorce does not need to be a journey that you take alone. Whether you realise it or not, there is an abundance of support out there for you, ranging from self-help techniques, to family and friends, to professional services such as counselling.
Don’t feel as though asking for help will place a burden on your friends and family. More often than not, they’ll want to help but aren’t always sure of the best way. By offering a sympathetic ear and some practical advice, those closest to you can play a significant role in your post-divorce healing journey.
3. Occupy Yourself
As with many life-changing events, keeping yourself busy and occupying your mind can really help. It could be as simple as starting a new hobby, meeting up with friends and family or getting some regular exercise. In fact, even a small amount of exercise, like a 20-minute walk three times a week, is shown to boost both physical and mental wellbeing. So not only will you improve your heart health, you’ll also feel good in the process.
Some people get a new pet, while others focus on their gardens. Whatever helps you feel better and occupies your mind, go for it — especially if it’s something you’ve wanted to do for a long time but perhaps couldn’t when you were married.
4. Avoid Rebound Relationships
Following a divorce, it can be tempting to jump straight into another relationship. The reality though is that a hard rebound after the end of a marriage is usually not the best decision.
While it’s not unheard of for such relationships to work and, indeed, flourish, the majority of the time they don’t. Instead, focus on your healing journey and build your next relationship based on love and happiness, rather than necessity.
5. Focus On Being A Great Co-Parent
If you’ve got children, dedicate as much of your time as possible after divorce to being a great co-parent. Your children need you and your former partner as much as ever right now, so be there for them and concentrate on making any co-parenting arrangements amicable in order to create long-lasting and happy relationships for all concerned going forward.
We recently wrote a blog containing tips for a successful co-parenting Christmas. The advice it contains isn’t just relevant for the festive period, so it’s definitely worth a read if you’re a co-parent or know anyone that is.
If you have more questions about this topic or any other legal issues arising on divorce or separation, please do get in touch as we are always happy to help. You can call us on 0203 488 4475 or email contact@thedivorcesurgery.co.
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