Are Your Friends A Help Or A Hindrance?
In times of crisis, we turn to our friends. Divorce, whether you instigated it or not, is a massive life change. And the first people you are likely to lean on are your friends.
But be careful. As we all know, the hard-wired assumption is that divorce is ‘bad’ and that there must be someone to ‘blame’ for this ‘failure’. But you are perfectly entitled to reject that stigmatising narrative. It does no good at all.
From the get-go, you need to make your friends understand that your divorce is NOT the stereotype. You’re working this out together. You may even be sharing a lawyer. You don’t want them to pick sides, or spend hours telling you how he/she was never right for you. This is a marriage which has ended, yes, but which had some brilliant successes of which you remain rightly proud.
So what you’re asking for is emotional support, but not the stigmatising attitude. And if your friends can’t give you what you need, go to someone impartial instead. Separation counsellors can be brilliant. And you can keep your friends for the fun pick-me-ups instead.
Related Reading:
How To Help Your Friends Divorce Well
How Do You Tell Your Friends You are Getting Divorced?
Breaking The Stigma: The Art Of Untying The Knot
Dealing With Divorce and Anxiety
If you have more questions about this topic or any other legal issues arising on divorce or separation, please do get in touch as we are always happy to help. You can call us on 0203 488 4475 or email contact@thedivorcesurgery.co.
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