Humans are complex creatures. Relationships don’t have clean endings. Often, the ending of an intimate relationship means the start of another type of relationship. It could be a co-parenting one, it could be a form of friendship, it could be a continuing work and professional relationship.
But it’s worth reflecting, as early as you can, not on what is ending, but what you are transitioning towards. It doesn’t mean being friends. But wouldn’t it be good to get to a place after divorce that if you bump into each other it isn’t awful for you both. Many couples need emotional support to help navigate these transitions.
And if you get legal advice, don’t let your lawyers off the hook. Think clearly about what the legal process of divorce is doing to your relationship with your former partner. Is it supporting you both in transitioning to a better relationship? Or is it making things worse?
If so, reassess. Try different help. This divorce will end. Even the most contentious court battles end eventually. But the legacy of your relationship will be with you for the rest of your life. So tread lightly, and make sure those around you do too.
If you have more questions about this topic or any other legal issues arising on divorce or separation, please do get in touch as we are always happy to help. You can call us on 0203 488 4475 or email contact@thedivorcesurgery.co.