Divorce Doesn’t Mean You Have Bad Judgement
A fear on divorce which can really consume people is the idea that they should have seen the divorce coming, that there was some bad seed at the core of their relationship which they should have spotted. That it is, somehow, their fault. And if they made this mistake once, won’t they go on and make it again?
But that is viewing divorce through completely the wrong prism. We all change during the course of our lives- it’s our biology. So it’s perfectly likely that the person you married was right for you at the time. You don’t have bad judgement, you’ve just grown apart. So this isn’t about you missing some key pointer in the past, it’s about recognising that today, in the present, you are no longer meeting each other’s needs. And that’s ok. Because it’s time for new adventures apart.
And that’s not to say you can’t learn from your relationship – of course you can. You may well need a little help to come to terms with the ending of your relationship, and to find peace with the legacy of your marriage, and how you are going to transition your relationship on to a co-parenting one, or even a friendship. Separation counsellors can be great in helping you through what can be a tough transition.
But don’t make it harder by feeling like a failure, or that you’re to blame. A successful relationship can still be successful even if it has an end point. And lets make sure the way you navigate the ending doesn’t destroy the many happy memories you’ve made.
If you have more questions about this topic or any other legal issues arising on divorce or separation, please do get in touch as we are always happy to help. You can call us on 0203 488 4475 or email contact@thedivorcesurgery.co.
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