Is Divorce Bad For Children?
So many of the divorcing couples we meet are riddled with guilt that their divorce is going to be bad for their children. That the best choice, when it comes to children, is always to stay in a marriage.
Please know that that is not right. If your relationship is no longer working, if it cannot make you both happy, then it is failing you. The right choice then is to move on. Would you want your children to stay in a deeply unhappy relationship? Of course not. Is the healthy choice to stay in a marriage ‘for the children’? Often no – an unhappy relationship makes everyone involved unhappy.
What matters is the way you divorce. You are modelling for your children, and they will take their cues from you. At the end of the day, you want your children to view this divorce as a footnote in their childhoods, not a defining event. Provided it is safe for you to work together, agree that that’s what you’re going to do. Don’t be afraid to get help: there are co-parenting experts out there who can really help you navigate your children’s questions and the ups and downs ahead.
But if you start out with a shared commitment to make this transition as seamless as you can for each other, you’ll be halfway there.
Remember, the best way to look after your children is to look after each other, and that applies equally on divorce as it did during your marriage.
If you have more questions about this topic or any other legal issues arising on divorce or separation, please do get in touch as we are always happy to help. You can call us on 0203 488 4475 or email contact@thedivorcesurgery.co.
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