Is Talking About Divorce A Taboo? Should It Be?
We are all so much better than we were a decade ago when it comes to talking about mental health. We have learned that being open about our problems, learning from each other and knowing that help (and not judgement or stigma) will follow, is the best first step.
But it seems none of those lessons have yet filtered through to divorce. Many couples would feel much more comfortable discussing depression or anxiety at a dinner party rather than their own divorce. Children are taught in schools about drugs, addiction, sexual health and consent. But where are the lessons and discussions around divorce?
In Britain 280,000 children experience parental separation each year. 42% of marriages end in divorce. Divorce is normal. And yet the way we talk about it (or refuse to talk about it) is far from normal.
Why does it matter? Well if you normalise divorce, you are preparing adults, and children, for the fact that if it happens (which it may well not) then it really doesn’t have to be the end of the world. It’s about two adults transitioning from an intimate relationship to a co-parenting one. The more that we all understand that this can be done with kindness and dignity, and without drama, the easier it will be to navigate without unnecessary conflict.
So if you have a friend, or your child has a friend, who is going through divorce or family change at the moment, don’t shy away or pretend it isn’t happening. Be open to the idea that this is probably the right decision for them and offer support, not judgement.
If you have more questions about this topic or any other legal issues arising on divorce or separation, please do get in touch as we are always happy to help. You can call us on 0203 488 4475 or email contact@thedivorcesurgery.co.
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