Moving On After Divorce
Divorce is a significant life change and knowing how to move on afterwards is essential to the entire process. But contrary to popular belief, divorce doesn’t have to be filled with negativity. In fact, it is hugely advantageous if separating couples can deal with the process as amicably as possible and with mutual respect.
To help you move on after divorce in the best way possible, we’ve compiled a list of the key points when negotiating the journey and when you subsequently do move on with your life:
1. Seek Support
For all divorcing couples, even those that have had an amicable divorce, there’s no reason why you can’t take advantage of the range of support that is out there to help you move forward smoothly and constructively.
Chances are you have a friend or friends who have been through a divorce. Their knowledge and experience can be extremely valuable in helping you move through what is, to you, uncharted territory. Just sitting and talking to someone close to you can really help, especially when you’ve got decisions to make and you’re not sure of the best option to take.
2. Keep A Journal
People say that keeping a journal can really help after any significant life event, including divorce. The best part is that your journaling doesn’t need to follow any set prescription or standards. It should be totally on your terms how and when you write things down… But do write them down!
It is enlightening to articulate your feelings, thoughts and emotions as you experience them. To be able to look back and embrace the journey through all of the peaks and troughs. Doing so not only clears space in your head and helps you think more rationally, it also allows you to see exactly how you’re feeling and how far you’ve come. That’s because we often don’t realise until we see what’s been written down just what emotions we are dealing with and how we managed to get through them at the time. It can be extremely cathartic.
3. Occupy Yourself
Keeping busy is one of the best ways to take your mind off anything that might be going on during the process of separation, and channelling your energies into positive thoughts and actions is essential.
Whether it’s gardening, socialising with friends or starting a new hobby, by occupying yourself as much as possible, you will find that moving on after divorce becomes easier. And in the case of starting a new hobby, it’s also likely that you’ll meet new people and develop fresh relationships.
4. Learn To Love Again
Regardless of how long your marriage lasted, a big part of moving on after divorce is learning to love again. But let’s be clear, we are not advocating rebound relationships – far from it! We’re talking about taking the time to meet new people, cultivate meaningful relationships and see how things go. Most importantly, learn to love the new you. Don’t feel the need to form a new romantic relationship: joyously unattached may be the best thing that’s ever happened to you.
If you do decide to start dating again, you should do whatever is helpful for you. But it’s important to start off light and fun and see what progresses. Go on a few dates and see how they make you feel. Finding someone you can enjoy a meal out or a trip to the cinema with is a great place to start.
5. Focus On Your Children
If you and your former partner have children, use the time after your divorce to focus on them and ensure they have everything they need. But don’t let that focus become a competition for who can be the best parent.
Your children will more than likely want to spend time with both of you and enjoy a range of different experiences. Put their needs first and the post-divorce process can be extremely rewarding.
If you have more questions about this topic or any other legal issues arising on divorce or separation, please do get in touch as we are always happy to help. You can call us on 0203 488 4475 or email contact@thedivorcesurgery.co.
Author Name: Editor
Published content by The Divorce Surgery Editorial Team.
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