What Is A Blended Family?
This feels like a controversial thing to say. But it really shouldn’t be. For some families, divorce can be the best thing to happen for the adults, but also crucially for their children.
It’s a theme we come back to again and again, but research consistently shows that what causes children emotional harm is not divorce in itself, but exposure to entrenched parental conflict. So if two parents are in a relationship which was making them both deeply unhappy, divorce can be an opportunity to create a happier, healthier family life.
And for some families, a divorce can mean their family gets bigger. There are more and more blended families out there showing us all how you can navigate divorce and remain a family on the other side, so we thought we’d dedicate a blog to Blended Families.
Moving Beyond Traditional Bonds
The definition of a “family” has witnessed a transformation over the past few decades. Traditional nuclear families, once the societal norm, now coexist with a multitude of other family structures, prominently including blended families. But what exactly constitutes a blended family, and how does this modern family structure impact the individuals involved?
What is a Blended Family?
A blended family arises when one or both partners in a relationship or marriage have children from prior relationships. These individuals unite to form a new family dynamic, integrating their past lives with their present. This contemporary family unit might also expand with the birth of mutual offspring.
The Rise of Blended Families
Several factors have contributed to the increasing prevalence and popularity of blended families:
– Divorce Patterns: Divorce is a normal life event. In the UK, 42% of marriages end in divorce. As a result, remarriage is quite common. Often, individuals who remarry bring with them children from their previous relationships, leading to the creation of a blended family.
– Bereavement: Losing a spouse or partner can be emotionally devastating. However, life does sometimes present another chance at love. When widows or widowers choose to commit to another partner, who might also have children, blended families are birthed.
– Changing Attitudes: The popularity of diverse family units by contemporary society has played a crucial role in the rise and acceptance of blended families.
Blended Family Challenges & Triumphs
Navigating the dynamics of a blended family requires effort, patience, and understanding. Some unique challenges include:
– Integration Issues: Combining two families isn’t always seamless. Children might resist the changes, feel loyalty conflicts between biological and step-parents, or grapple with feelings of loss and jealousy.
– Differing Parenting Styles: Merging different parenting philosophies can cause issues, and needs to be carefully and sensitively navigated.
– Establishing New Relationships: Building trust and love can be a gradual process, sometimes fraught with initial resistance and scepticism.
However, if navigate sensitively blended families can bring much joy:
– Provide Second Chances: For adults, it offers another opportunity at love and companionship, healing past wounds. For children, it can mean gaining additional loving adults in their lives in the form of step-parents.
– Enrich Lives with Diverse Experiences: The coming together of two families can mean an amalgamation of different cultures, traditions, and values, enriching the family’s life tapestry.
– Foster Growth and Resilience: Overcoming the challenges that come with blending a family can foster resilience, teaching children the values of compromise, understanding, and patience.
The Importance of Effective Communication
For blended families to thrive, open communication is paramount. Partners should discuss their parenting philosophies, set boundaries, and decide on the family’s direction together.
Children, too, should be encouraged to voice their feelings, fears, and concerns. Through effective communication, misunderstandings can be minimised, and a harmonious environment can be cultivated.
Conclusion
Blended families represent a significant portion of modern society, reshaping the traditional concept of a family. Like all family structures, they come with their set of challenges and rewards. The key to navigating this family model is understanding, patience, and a willingness to adapt.
For so many of the couples with children that we see, their biggest fear is that divorce will be damaging for their children. But research has consistently shown that what causes emotional harm to children isn’t divorce itself- it’s being exposed to their parents’ entrenched conflict. So if an adult relationship isn’t working any more, sometimes divorce can be the best solution, enabling a new co-parenting approach in which everyone can thrive.
By acknowledging the unique dynamics of blended families and supporting them, society can ensure that love, rather than mere biology, remains at the heart of family ties.
And if you’d like to learn from some real-life blended families, here’s a few well-known influencers who speak about their own experiences of blended families: Gwyneth Paltrow, Sophie Stanbury, JLo, Glennon Doyle and Nichole Farrow
If you have more questions about this topic or any other legal issues arising on divorce or separation, please do get in touch as we are always happy to help. You can call us on 0203 488 4475 or email contact@thedivorcesurgery.co.
Related Reading
- Amicable Divorce UK Q&A
- Three Tips For An Amicable Divorce
- Blended Families…Let’s Celebrate Them!
- What Does Research Say About Divorce And Children?
- Can You Have A Good Divorce?
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